For years, Alex de Minaur has kept his personal life relatively guarded, choosing to let his game speak louder than his private moments. But in a recent in-depth interview with The Players’ Voice, the 26-year-old tennis star broke that silence — offering an intimate look into his relationship with long-time partner Kaitoe Boulder, and how she became a quiet anchor during one of the most challenging periods of his career.
“I hit a point where the wins stopped feeling like wins,” Alex shared. “I was on the court, doing what I love, but mentally I was somewhere else entirely. Kaitoe noticed before I even did. She grounded me when I was losing grip — not on tennis, but on myself.”
The couple met at a charity fundraiser in Melbourne in 2019, where Kaitoe was volunteering as part of a youth mental health initiative. At the time, Alex was emerging as one of Australia’s top prospects, riding the highs of back-to-back deep runs in ATP tournaments — and quietly managing the lows of increasing pressure and solitude that came with them.
“Kaitoe’s not from the tennis world. That helped,” he said. “She never cared whether I won or lost. She cared about whether I was present, whether I was okay. That’s rare.”
Alex described moments where Kaitoe would encourage him to disconnect from tennis — even when that felt counterintuitive. “There were weeks where I’d fly back home and she’d take my phone, tell me to leave the racquet in the bag, and just breathe. I didn’t realize how badly I needed that until I had it.”
Though the two have kept a low profile publicly, they’ve reportedly shared a quiet life between Monte Carlo and Sydney, spending off-seasons hiking, reading, and — as Alex puts it — “just living like two people, not like a player and his schedule.”
When asked if marriage or family is on the horizon, Alex smiled but didn’t give much away. “One thing at a time. Right now, I’m just grateful for a love that keeps me balanced in a world that rarely is.”
His voice may be calm, but his message was loud: behind the fierce competitor is a man finding peace, and Kaitoe Boulder has a lot to do with it.